What Makes you Feel Loved?
- 11.18.2008
- Article Number: 4
| What Makes you Feel Loved? Good Question!
Today we consider what it takes to make you feel loved. If you knew what makes you feel loved, it would really help you to get a lot more of it, wouldn’t it. It would be great if you knew exactly what it required for you to feel loved. You could then go out and get it whenever you needed it, rather than waiting for it to fall out of the sky onto your head. Who says you can’t ask for love when you need it, especially if you knew what you needed to happen in order for you to feel loved. Let’s do a little exercise together to take us closer to that place.
Let’s take a minute to think about what love looks like to YOU, by answering these questions for yourself!
How would you recognize love were you to see it or find it? (e.g. love’s qualities, love’s actions, attitudes, feelings, reactions, etc.) Make a mental of what comes to mind.
Another way to do this is to ask yourself ‘how do I recognize that I have been really loved by someone?’
How do you know whether someone else has been loving to you or not?
How do you know that you are being loved – what do you notice happening, what do you feel and experience, what tells you that this is love and not something else?
Let’s get more specific - think of someone you know well (Your best friend? A close family member? Your life partner / lover / or a potential one?)
Now, what has to happen for you to feel loved?
list in your mind the at least three important elements that represent “love” to you?
Love Element 1.
Love Element 2.
Love Element 3.
What were they?
Perhaps personal attention or loving touch, quality time together, acts of service to help you, special gifts, maybe encouraging words . . .
You have just made an important discovery as to what presses your “I feel loved” button.This is of incredible value. Now you can actively pursue and even ask for it. Take time right now to ask God to help you to feel loved a lot more often. Pray with me.
“Dear God. I want to feel loved more often. Help me to know what makes me feel and know that I am loved, and how to get it from the right places and people. Your child in Jesus's Name. Amen”
Until next time this is Pierre Basson saying …
“Don’t ever be ashamed of wanting to feel loved. We all need to FEEL LOVED.”
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What does real love look like?
- 11.12.2008
- Article Number: 3
| What does real love look like to you? Can you recognize love when it happens?
Have you ever taken time out to consider what is love?
The Bible commands us to love one another as we love ourselves.
But what is love for you?
Is it when you get that long meaningful glance from your sweetheart?
Is it when you receive an unexpected gift from someone special?
Is it when your friend calls and offers you come over and help yo when you’re struggling with a deadline?
Is love a long quiet walk together on the beach at sunset?
Or a quiet dinner for two, with gentle music, a fire and candles?
Is it doing all the fun and exciting things together, from shopping to sharing jokes?
Is it discovering new truths together and growing closer, as we share great books and movies?
Is love when you choose to do what is right, even when no-one even noticed or applauded?
Or is love when in the middle of a busy and stressful day a dirty little face beams: “I got this for you mommy” offering you a bunch of wilting flowers from your garden?
Is love that which gives you ‘kicks’, especially if it’s exciting, daring or risky?
What does love look like to you now and how would you recognize it? Would you know it if it stared you in the face? Allow me to challenge you for a moment to think about it and list for yourself how you see it.
We rarely stop to think about it, and many of us simply assume that we either know the answers to these questions, or that they are obvious and that everybody knows them anyway!
Or else we think that we don’t need to know them or that no one can in fact know for sure – ever: After all, Love just happens – if you’re lucky – or it doesn’t if you’re not. And that’s that! Sometimes we assume it has nothing to do with luck but all to do with fate and that you were either meant to have it or not. You were either born blonde and pretty with just the right eyes and build, and therefore you have or else you don’t! Maybe you have the right parents, Or the money and so you will automatically have love.
But wait a minute: If we don’t even know what love is or how we’ll recognize it, how can we even start? Well, you cannot begin to find anything out about love if you do not even know what it is or how you’ll recognize it! Just as you cannot pick up a map and hope to find your way to a town, whose name you can neither pronounce nor spell, nor recognize it’s known landmarks, we must first know exactly what we are looking for and how to clearly recognize love. Take a moment now to think about love. Until next time when we pursue love further this is Pierre Basson saying “
Make love your quest and make love your satisfaction”
“It is better to stand in love than to fall in love”
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How do you know when you are experiencing love?
- 10.30.2008
- Article Number: 2
| How do you know when you are experiencing love?
We would all like to be loved more and feel full of love – isn’t that so. But I have a question for you. “How do you know for sure WHEN you are experiencing love?” in other words
“How do you experience love, and how do you KNOW you are having it?”
Sounds like a funny question doesn’t it. Do you feel love when you’re biting into your favorite chocolate or candy? Of course not! Well maybe sometimes? If you’re sharing it with that someone special! So how do you know that you have been really loved by somebody (lipstick on your collar proves nothing?).
Wouldn’t it be lovely if you had a little light on the end of your nose that lit up every time you experienced love so that you and others would know it? No, it’s never quite that simple. Are you experiencing love when you receive a phone call from your favorite friend or a distant loved one? What about when you get up out of bed, and it’s a holiday, the sun is shining and the sky is blue. You’re full of energy, you feel great – is that love?
Do you experience love when a friend gives you an unexpected gift? The question is: are good feelings equivalent to love? What do you think? Does it follow then that if someone can make you feel good, that you’re being loved? If that’s so then there are some people that you and I could never love, because they live deep in the valley of depression and misery despite their comfortable circumstances. Does that also mean that it is easier to love a person who is in a good mood than someone who is angry? Are you feeling loved when you get what you’ve wanted for a long time? It may be a new gadget, a new relationship, a promotion, perhaps some extra income. Do you really feel un-loved until you get it?
If you’re expecting a definitive answer to these questions from me, you’ll be disappointed. How we experience love is a very complex and personal matter. Built upon our associations of experiencing love through a variety of activities in our past. We may experience love in a special touch, an encouraging word, a special gift, some quality time or even from an act of service. What makes you feel loved? Really loved?
Take some time during the next 24 hours to notice when know or feel loved, and what happened to make it so. I guarantee that if you do that for the next 24 hours, you will see loving in a new light. Every time you notice that you are experiencing love, thank God for it, it is a gift from God to experience and to share real love.
We all are seeking love, and yet most of us do not even know when we are getting it or not. How can we expect to find love if we cannot even recognize it? In the First Book of Corinthians Chapter 14 St. Paul challenges us to earnestly seek spiritual powers, but above all to pursue love as our greatest quest.
Until next time this is Pierre Basson saying …
“Find love in your life, and never ever, ever let go of it.”
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How
- 10.05.2008 - Article Number: 1
| How do you recognize real LOVE?
Does your friend or partner walk around with a sticker on their head to tell you they’re in a loving or in a non-loving mood? Do you walk around with a badge on your chest that says “Please love me, I need it NOW!”
So what does real love look like? How do you know when you’ve given it or when you’ve received it?
It sounds so obvious but it’s not. Let’s check that out. Make a mental list of your answers to the following questions.
Who have you loved today? (List them in your mind – maybe your boss, a colleague, a customer, a friend, your parents or your children, your spouse or family?)
How do YOU know that you loved them. How can you be sure it was love?
(Was it love in your attitude towards them?
Was it perhaps caring choices that you made towards them?
Was it a tender touch or a kind word that you communicated?
What did you do?)
You may have sent love, but did they get it? Did they see it as loving? This is the tough part, because we have little or no control over other people’s reactions to our love deeds.
It is so easy to presume that because we loved, they automatically felt loved. You may even feel that they now owe it to love you back, but perhaps they didn’t even notice your loving. Have you ever felt that your loving was ignored, as though you were invisible. That no-one notices how loving you are – especially if you are a mom!
If at the end of your day you can list who it was that you loved and how – you are fortunate. For most of us one day just blends into the next, and we are hardly aware of when loving is happening or when it is not, simply because we live without feedback about how we are doing with our loving.
I want to challenge you to change this by taking some constructive action!
For the next five nights, starting tonight, I want you to do three things to help you review your loving. You’ll be amazed how this feedback will take your loving to a new level.
Firstly, take a piece of paper and on it list all the people you tried to love today, leaving some space between them for comments.
Secondly Next to each name note what you did to love them, whether it be an action, a prayer, your attitude, your words, your touch, your gifts or your time.
Thirdly next to each one list how you think they received your loving, and what makes you think that – for example what they said, their body language, how they reacted.
Then pray for them that they will feel loved and blessed by your loving.
Do that for the next five nights and you’ll suddenly recognize love in places and ways you have never seen it before.
Remember that much of the impact of your love is lost, if your loved ones do not FEEL loved by your loving actions. If in doubt, why not ask them whether they felt loved or not by what you did, and try new ways to communicate your love to them.
Until next time this Pierre Basson saying
“Everyone is looking for real love with a name and a face to it, and it’s you.”
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